Never Deprive Someone of Hope
Hope might be all someone has. I would never criticize someone for ending a relationship with an addict. Sometimes your life calls for self preservation and removing toxic people. You might lose the desire to be involved in someone's life. You might end a relationship due to pain and anger. But, to lose hope for someone's health and recovery is not the correct response.
We all make jokes about how people set resolutions on January 1st and they sometimes end on January 2nd. The fact is-it is hard to make changes. In the case of addiction, it sometimes feels impossible.
I have a friend who has been married to an alcoholic for 20 years. He relapsed after rehab and has been drinking hard for about a year after a quick stint of sobriety. She turned to me and said, "I think I am done. I think I've lost hope. Should I have hope?"
I don't know a lot about a lot. But, this I know. You should never lose hope. Hope should exist in presence of an addict and in absence. You can stop loving someone. You can choose to distance yourself. But, you should always have hope that someone will recover. Until the person is dead, there is always hope. Sometimes the hope you have in someone is the only thing they have.