Cooperation is the Key to Recovery and Sobriety
I struggle with being a contrarian...especially in sobriety. It is the reason I try recovery system after recovery system and still find flaws in each. I am not above arguing and being oppositional toward people trying to help me. Wouldn't life be great if you could just take everyone's word for it in recovery? You know the scenario...someone says, "you are an alcoholic and if you do this, you'll get better?" Then, you do it and it rains puppies and vibrators. That sounds so pleasurable. But, even in this statement, I find flaws starting wth "you are an alcoholic." Who are you to tell me that's what I am! You don't put baby in a corner! It's so tempting for me to be oppositional.
It has taken me a year of sobriety to be able to see other points of view. I can see the greatness and value in systems that did not work for me now. I can acknowledge that every and all systems including AA actually "worked" for me because they made me think. They made me search for my path that worked. AKA: My recovery glass slipper. There is no help in zero sum games. Dominating, winning, elevating my path above the program and person next to me...thinking I know all the answers. There is always value in talking and listening. I speak to be heard. I listen to understand. But, bullying and dominating is of no value.
There is great value in cooperation. That's the key to getting better and having a tribe. Cooperation.
I am totally going to read this tomorrow and argue with myself. Because who is that bitch to tell me what to do?